As a very methodological person, I believe in sifting through the facts to reach a solution. Sometimes, this approach can lead to tough love. While I thought that tough love would help me break free from my anxiety and depression, I’ll tell you right now- it doesn’t work, and it’s not worth the stress of … Continue reading Why Tough Love Doesn’t Work on Mental Illness
The problem with positivity is that it rejects grief-- a valid emotion essential to the healing process. Growing up, I was known as the girl who was always smiling. I remember my fifth grade volleyball coach saying, “Marell, I don’t think I can ever see you get angry.” I just stood there and smiled, knowing that … Continue reading The Problem with Positivity
Accepting help means to accept that you have a problem, and sometimes, we aren't so willing to do that. Letting people in risks feeling vulnerable. We like to know that we are capable of doing things on our own. Sometimes, we can even fear burdening our loved ones. While I will admit, accepting help is … Continue reading Accept Help: A Guide to Letting People In
Disappointment comes with the package of trauma, but one of the harder disappointments is accepting that people will let you down- even those you thought wouldn't. When asked if I lost friends to cancer, I always said that I made the choice of isolating myself. When things got bad- I got private, and refused to let … Continue reading Support: Dealing with Disappointment.
We are typically not our normal selves when coping with a traumatic experience. Sometimes it feels like trauma has taken everything away from you, including your sense of self and character. But contrary to how it feels, you’re still you- you’re just a different version of you right now, and for valid reasons. I made a … Continue reading When You Think You’ve lost Yourself Completely, Remember This.
I'll be the first to admit that I was ashamed of my anxiety and depression. I was oblivious to the clinical signs of depression, and having never really dealt with social anxiety before, it took me a while to understand that I was struggling with a mental illness. It took me even longer to verbally admit, … Continue reading Break the Stigma around Mental Health